Relationships and personalities

Along our life's path, we meet variety of persons and personalities. Be it the family we are born into, the siblings and relatives. We encounter variety of personality traits and interactions. Some shock us with their behavior and at times you feel as if a brick hit you. Others show great harmony, which comes with maturity, which isn't defined by age. Many go in growing physically, however they are trapped and stop growing after a certain age. Some are at the 2 year old stage, others haven't matured beyond teen years and so on.

Have you been the one who always has loved your family and siblings, however met with constant stone walling and abusive behavior? Are you surprised and unable to understand why kindness is met with hostility? Here is an article I would like to share with you. This article tries to help those whose empathy is met with shocking behavior and how to stop it! Your comments and insights are welcome!

Why Empaths Attract Abusive People And How To Stop It

Quote: " Empaths like to help people. They try to see the best in people. They give people the benefit of the doubt.

They take responsibility for their actions and apologize when they find they’ve hurt someone. They believe that other people are good, decent, and fair, too.

Those are good things, right? Well, not always.

The full article is at:
http://humansarefree.com/2018/04/why-empaths-attract-abusive-people-and.html?m=0

updated on 19, 2021

People Who Lack Empathy are a Very Different Kind of “Sad”

The Sting of Empathy Deficiency

 

“Empathy is about finding echoes of another person in yourself”~Mohsin Hamid

Our new world has changed the levels of empathy in humans. I am unsure if it is that people are just DONE dealing with so much traumatic grief and struggles, or if the pandemic world is bringing the people who lack empathy to the forefront.

All I know is my empathy has been in overdrive for the past 20 months.

Being an empath is a heavy load. We feel EVERYTHING-oddly we feel most from people who treat us poorly or even cruelly. We feel the sadness and sorrow of others, we feel other people’s guilt and rage, and we feel struggles. The saving grace of empathy, is when we can feel joy and contentment in others. We feel the lightness of a new baby being announced, the celebrations of birthdays and weddings, and milestones in other people’s worlds.

Thank goodness, we are open enough to feel a balance, especially in this extremely unbalanced world.

“ One doesn’t have to operate with great malice to do great harm. The absence of empathy and understanding are sufficient~ Charles M. Blow

 

....... Some signs of lack of empathy are:

1. Blaming others for their problems
2. Poor coping skills
3. Emotional Outbursts of anger or frustration
4. Struggle with being intimate in relationships
5. Turning conversations toward themselves
6. Make every topic of conversation, problem, or celebration about them.

These people live in extremely sad worlds. They often feel lonely, even when they are sitting among others, not because they are depressed, but because they feel superior. They believe that they don’t fit in well with others because their lack of emotional empathy makes them stronger and more resilient than others. They see crying as weakness, and anger and inappropriate comments as strengths. They might tell and empathetic person to “stop crying” yet tell them to “get mad and lose your shit!” They feel that lashing out aggressively is better than actually showing emotions.

....... If you have someone in your life who continually criticizes you, makes you feel “less than”, or feels the need to tell you how you should feel, chances are they lack empathy. These people are difficult to share a life with, and while they feel alone in their own superior mess, you will also feel very much alone inside your empathy.